I read a lot of blogs.  Some I skim through, some I laugh through, some I bookmark and file away as a reference or resource for my writing.  Others that I read cause me to weep because of the poignant vulnerability the writer has entrusted to his/her readers. 

 They have a way of stringing the words together in such thoughtful honesty and profundity that I often cannot leave a comment for a day or two; sometimes it's weeks before I am able to sort out the plethora of my reactions to their thoughts.  Regardless of how long it takes, their thoughts open my mind, touch my soul, and allow me to mature as a person.  

Yesterday a blogger wrote about a painful and abusive incident that occurred in his teenage years at the place he worked.  Though early in his teen years he was devouring philosophy, excelling in advanced mathematics at school, and was generally being the brilliant person he has always been, at work he was labeled an imbecile.     

His post made me cry.  I've been there myself - suffering at the hands of jerks who choose to try to utterly destroy a smart or talented person rather than deal with their own insecurities.  I call this type of behavior "leveling."  It's when a person perceives something lacking in their own life, and therefore are compelled to diminish that very gift when they see it in another.  It levels the field.  It's as though they are saying, "If I can't have it or am not willing to work for it, then nobody else gets to have it either."  

Leveling is wrong no matter what the motivation or situation.  I see it happening all the time not only in work situations, but also in families.  

Instead of bringing someone else down to your level, I think it is much better to spend your life energy finding your own dream, putting your nose to the grindstone, and become your very best and don't worry about what others are doing.  

Charles M. Schultz, creator of the Peanuts cartoons, once said, "There is no greater burden than great potential." 

Isn't that the truth???



That is really right. Really.

Thanks for posting that.

May 7, 2013 at 8:16 AM  

Thanks, Nancy. I think leveling is a form of bullying. Loved your blog post today, by the way! Excellent.

May 7, 2013 at 9:39 AM  

Leveling is the perfect word. I've seen it so often, and felt it as well. Well said, Beth. Great post.

May 7, 2013 at 3:15 PM  

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